Asperger syndrome is recognized as a mild form of autism. It can cause individuals to have problems in communicating, interacting socially, and dealing with intense sensory exposure. Signs of the disorder begin as early as two-years old and will progress and continue throughout the duration of the individual's lifespan.
There is no exact known cause for the developmental disorder, although research points to the possibility of a genetic predisposition. Treatment targets the symptoms of the disorder, rather than the disorder itself. It normally focuses on social interaction advancement and nonverbal communication techniques.
Even with treatment, Asperger's symptoms can remain intact, and this can make it especially difficult for those raising adult children with the disorder. There's no one guide on how to parent an adult child with Asperger syndrome, but here are a few tips to make the experience easier.
Allow Independence:
Having a child with any type of disability tends to make parents more careful and overprotective. It can be easy to lose sight of your children's journey and try to keep them in the nest as long as possible to ease your own mind. Rather than restricting them from making their own way in the world, offer to be a support as they maneuver their way through new terrain.
You may find that your children become oppositional or resentful at being held back, especially if peers or siblings are moving out, getting jobs, and making their own choices. Promote independence in a supportive way that keeps your children coming back for advice and checking in with you as they spread their wings.
Find the Positive:
Asperger's syndrome is a high functioning level on the autism spectrum. Many men and women with the disorder lead full, healthy, productive lives with average or higher level intelligence. While your children may not have been born as a genetic copy of you, they still have plenty to offer, and it's important to focus on the good, and create a positive self-image for them.
When wondering how to parent adult children with Asperger syndrome, look no further than what you already know about your son or daughter. Common characteristics of the disorder are loyalty, honesty, determination despite social norms, great organization skills, and analytical thinking. Celebrate these differences and you will find it easier to accept them and help your children grow in their own special way.
Communicate The Way They Choose:
Asperger syndrome causes individuals to have difficulty with socialization and communication. When your children are young they may be more open to physical contact to show affection, such as hugs. As an adult, your children may not want to show love, or be shown love in these ways due to sensory restrictions. Learn to communicate in ways that make your children comfortable, and help others in their life to better understand these methods and why they work.
The most important lesson in learning how to parent an adult child with Asperger syndrome is to love your children for who they are.